Advina...I agree that is a very selfish kind of love. To think that he can't give me his whole heart ( like he did before this all happened) is heartbreaking. I realize I became lazy and complacent...as he did to now we are in the mess we are in. It is not good enough for me anymore. I do have a question...why did she try and make him choose..that he always chose me..yet they always seemed to get back together? Maybe he loves her more then me? Am I too stupid to realize that? Why would he choose me...or make me and his family a priority..then get back together with her? I am gettign councelling from a DB coach...but I fail at times. I have given up on trying to convince him that staying in contact with her is wrong. I am not sure if he is afraid to tell me he is done with me...or if he truly doesn't not want to give her up..in any capacity. I have told him what I want...emotional stability, to be treated like a man who truly loves his wife should treat his wife, with respect, love, and honestly. I am going to start living my life...have decided that...again. I know when I start to pull away...he comes forward. But it is actions that prove to me not words.
