Does this sound like a MLC or am I just in a SSM?

[mum2three]

Thanks Bright future. I really can't remember how long it has been going on. He still kisses me before going to work and when he gets back and at night but only very rarely hugs. He hugged me in October when we returned from a weekend away. He had been strange all weekend, and then greatly improved when we got back into mobile phone zone! I think he had a few texts from the woman he was having a ?EA with. He also gave me a very affectionate hug on Dec 12 th having taken her out for a secret drink! On new years day I asked him for a hug but have not done that again!

I am not sure if this all stopped when he started his ?EA or when i confronted him about it or whether it has never been a big deal to him (or obviously to me) to show physical affection. I am a very huggy person so I would probably have initiated all our hugs before. I just had a shock last week when he recoiled as I tried to hug him and I have not tried again. We haven't touched since then! (Kisses -little pecks on lips but no touch).

I have enjoyed the five love languages and realise that he shows affection in other ways but perhaps not so frequent; he used to buy flowers a lot but now just on my birthday and was very keen to tell me then that our D had bought them.

He does takes time to help at home with chores, is a fabulous father, and makes a special effort to talk to me about my day but things are definitely different over the last 9 months. I don't think he sees, speaks or texts his younger co-worker anymore, but of course they still work together so I am a bit confused. He meets so many of my other emotional needs, just falling short on physical affection and complements.

There is also a lot of day to day variablility....I still wonder if this is MLC/ depression/ stress or just the natural fluctuation in a marriage in which the husband, perhaps due to low testosterone and medication, is just not that interested in sex and was never that physically affectionate.