Heavy Lifting Solo

[mamabird]

Breakdown, just catching up on your sitch. That is confusing, to say the least. I am sorry, what a crappy place to be. I think you've done right by just going along with the tide, accepting things as they are (after all, they seem pretty good).

Wondering if all the ML and nice things are insecurity on her part. That is the impression I get. Like she's trying to "keep you". Maybe the D is a self-protection strategy... I don't know.

I do say I understand her inability to drop OM. She is obviously getting something from him that she needs, period. In my case, with OM1, I was getting sympathy, empathy, kindness, and caring. Because I was not getting very much of this at home, I was highly unmotivated to give that up. Unfulfilled needs drive us... and some of us are better at denying ourselves than others.

I hope you can get the continuance and postpone legal action... I just wish your W would make up her mind... you are a good man for hanging in there.