You have another thread, so it would be helpful to stick to it so others stay up to speed on your sitch and advice.
Sandi2 I believe left and came back. There are husbands here who cheated and now their wives are WAS, more on the newbie side than the vet side. 25yrsmlc has described in several people's threads her great temptation and eventual decision not to cheat.
I also just spent a significant amount of time chatting with a friend who left her h just before this Christmas. For many years she told him what was lacking, they went to counseling, he worked on it and then slacked off again. She's done. She wants to be happy. She has no more love for him, no more resources to tap. Finally he gets it, he proclaims his love every day and how he'll do better, but she is just done. It's sad, and it's probably what my H is telling people, but very very common.
I think people who have an affair, even if they seemed to be happy and then one day lost their mind and character and got sucked into an affair, when you scratch beneath the surface their marriage was in serious trouble and they didn't know it.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
