Agree with Breakdown here. I think there is definitely a "face saving" aspect in play. My H went and told the world what a horrible W I have been so if he were to take me back now, how would that look for HIM?? Not so good, right?
I wouldn't worry too much about messing things up by slagging your W here. We are not going to tell her or hold it against you!! She is going to have to want to come back on her own, based on your positive changes.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page