trying to save my marriage Phase 2

[sweetbabyred]

OW is most likely very needy and jealous. She's dating a married man, so she needs constant reassurance that he won't leave her for someone else. And she is trying to prove to him that she's better than you.

You, on the other hand, do not need to compete with OW. You just need to GAL and become the best person you can be, for yourself. Think about what your H liked about you when you met, and if you still like those things about you, go back to becoming more of that person.

You may want to check out the articles on the hero's spouse website. The author calls the OW the "alienator" and talks about how she's constantly worried that the man will leave her, so she will act very needy. She was probably like that before or she wouldn't be willing to even date a man who is still married.

I re-read the articles last night and felt a lot better about my sitch. I may not save my M, but I can understand why my H is with a girl who can't hold a candle to me.