Its been quite some time since I posted and I figured I would update a bit and perhaps get some feedback.
BD over a year ago. Divorced and ExW is in a new relationship six months in.
My life has its ups and downs but at least I have given up trying to understand my ex. It took time. The thing that helped me stop my over analyzing ended a while ago. It convinced me that the only reason she can continue on is by forgetting and minimizing. Last conversation we had she denied so many things she has said and done that I finally understood, or at least think I do, how these MLCers can cope with what they have done.
Its hopeless having a conversation with ex. The only thing I wished for at this point is that she got it. Just got it. But she doesnt. I have told her that shes welcome to talk to me when she gets some perspective but she doesnt understand what I say to her.
Isnt it crazy?
As for me and D. We are sooo close bc of this that I feel trully blessed as a parent. Without her I dont think I would have coped.
I have read so many people sayingthat we have to have no expectation. Well how could we after all has been said and done. At least in our ex partners minds.
