No. Show him that you are doing it and don't need his help. You have to start showing him some independence like the OW. - I do show independance, I think. I don't ask him for help but I do ask for advice. How else would I show indepedence? I don't go out a lot now because I have our daughter full time and I don't hang around the people I hung around before because I consider them "toxic" friends. And to be honest, my daughter is my number one priority.
And I'm not sure OW is independent. I have a friend who knows her and she seems very needy and is always looking for reassurance. So I'm not sure.
So he came, hung out and then left. It wasn't a bad visit, I was polite and we had some good conversations. I complimented him on his jacket and his job and listened with care as he was telling me about how screwed up things were.
But then a new turn of events this morning. D told me this morning she asked him last night and he told her "probably not". I didn't know she asked him this, she told me this morning and She was very sad this morning. So I called him and asked him what he wanted to do and that I felt D needed more structure. It was a very good conversation, only about D. In the end, we agreed that he would come here for supper tuesday nights and to start, he would take D to his mothers house every second saturday night for a sleepover. He does not want to introduce D to OW for at least a year. So as much as he's not been involved with D since the start of this, I can't keep watching our D have her hopes up and then crushed whenever he comes here.
