This whole thing takes a lot of time and alot of patience The main thing is to take of yourself the best you can setting boundaries with your H and letting them go not easy During this process of standing, we learn change and grow It turns out to be a good thing for most LBS You said you were unhappy with him in your M I can relate as I was unhappy too with my X but I still loves him and wanted to keep family together.. so all I can say is continue to be cordial to him but stop searching his sites and practice letting him go in your thoughts a best as possible even for a few minutes at a time to start AS for your D,we cant control how our kids feel about their Father in MLC I always speak kindly of my XH to my kids reminding them it wasnt their fault He loves them very much but he got sick(crises) Thats how I see it sometimes counseling can help the teen get it out I also spent a lot of time listening to my then 12 year old D cry talk and feel it all she is 17 now and seems well adjusted straight a student and committed to school she has not seen her dad in 3 years keep posting the best, peace
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