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You've suggested that he see a physician and he's not taken the advice. I would not mention it again because he's got to do this on his own, just like an addict, i.e., until they hit bottom, they will not seek help.

You can be sympathetic, but don't become a door mat. Yes, he's got some issues going on, but there's nothing you can do about them. Why? Because you didn't break him, therefore you can't fix him.

I wouldn't be too quick in picking up the phone or answering his emails/texts. He needs to see that you are going on w/your life. Right now, he's got the best of both worlds and until he begins to sense that you are pulling away and are living your life for you and not waiting around on him, he'll continue this behavior.

I understand the worry you have had because of his behavior, but you can't control him and he will most likely not listen to any of your suggestions. Mlc takes a long time to process and it's not a good idea to attempt to pull him out of the crisis because the next time around will be far worse than it is now. They will do and say things that you've never imagined and all you can do is step back, detach and let them go. Bottom line, he's missing something in his life and he needs to go back and retrace his childhood steps to confront those issues that stunted him emotionally in order to grow up.

You will need to determine what boundaries you want to put in place and stick to them once he returns home. The saying around here is "let go, let God". That saying is so true because God is the only one that can help him save himself.