I would totally be on the same page if this was later in his journey.. or IF it wasn't a complaint of his w in which he FULLY agreed with in his first journal entry.
But she did - and 3 months into this journey - I HIGHLY doubt that she would awaken and miss him. In fact, I think it would just solidify her decision to separate.
To steal from 25 time + consistency = Changes she can believe in.
IMO - UF hasn't put in the time. He's changing but he is frustrated. Maybe because she's not noticing? Only UF can answer that.
UF - You talk about trying to stop yourself from becoming bitter but is that really what you are doing?
I mean - couldn't you just say to yourself.
"I'm going to do this for W... because I didn't do it before.. and even though it may be or turn into cake-eating.. I'm gonna take the steps now because I screwed up"
3 months of new behavior won't change a feeling in someone that took years to create.
Time will tell if she is cake-eating, or testing you.. be patient.
Hi Val I am a few years out on you on this. No disrespect. I like your advice. I think this is one of those replies where you disagree witb me but we are on the same page. I was writing towards the eventual outcome. Though we may try to make this difficult time in our life as extremely unique...... once we realize it is rather ordinary we have the upper hand . Where am I going? I do not know. But wanted to get in a compliment and give you a few thoughts to thing about. Thank you for always questing..
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