As mentioned, the point is to really see the person behind the crazy. She doesn't have her head on straight, and you could not have prevented this nor likely couldn't have mitigated it. It's not rational. If it was, MC might have helped earlier. It's not.
Don't ever let yourself think otherwise. There are things you can and should fix about yourself. Of course. I highly recommend not having contact with her for at least a month and then re-evaluate if YOU want to talk to her. The point of that is to get you some perspective. To let the counselor's thoughts and ideas sink in. To get YOUR head on straight.
I also don't recommend dating yet. There will be time enough for that once your head is cleared. If you don't, you'll risk meeting a great person and having such confused feelings that you ruin any chance of anything with that person. And you'll hurt that person.
Get the distance first. Get your head cleared first. Accept what happened first. Accept your part for what it is - and not more than that!
When you get to that point, there will be plenty of time for dating. And you'll be much more likely to pick a good mate AND enjoy it much more without your crazy filling your head space.
Let it settle.
Peace, AJ
BTW, this is a great thread to sticky. Jack?
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
