WH, I don't see looking ahead as a worrying trait in this case. That's a very healthy way to look at things, really. Just try not to fantasize about it too much yet
Believe me when I tell you, before it's over, you'll be very glad to either move or have him move. I can tell you, I didn't move. It was very hard to work through the "ghosts" in the house. I didn't move because a)I'm not the one that wanted out and b) my kids needed the house for their stability and I knew she couldn't keep it. I almost sold it though. I'm very glad I did not, but I won't lie, it was tough for a long time to come home to that house. It contributed to wanting to "run away" from it all. Funny thing is, my ex and her new husband live three blocks away. She left (2x), forced me to put it on the market, and then is angry at me for her not having it. But I stand by my decision 100%. My kids needed that part of their lives to be stable.
But once I got over that, I really do like the house much better. As much as you can like a house that big when it's just you and a cat. I actually had a friend and his family move in as well. That helped and worked out very well. It was a good reminder that no matter how things are in my own life, I always have enough to help others and I always should give what I can. It's part of who I am.
My guess is, for monetary reasons, you'll be the one to leave. But I think it'll be a great thing for you and your kids. It'll be a fresh start. And it'll make it easier to get past the emotional trauma he is trying to inflict without worrying he'll put sardines in the drapes or something silly on his way out
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
