I agree with StubbornDyke, why not just call or e-mail H, tell him how you feel and what you want?

"I would like either one of us to go but not both -- what would you like to do?"

I don't see what's wrong with that.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015