I would be lying if I didn't say that I feel somewhat less than optimistic that my M will turn around. His reasoning for offering the "friend card" was that it would allow her to not be threatened, lessen some of her guilt and allow me the opportunity to show the new me. He also said that it would be a much better way to be divorced if that becomes a reality, as opposed to the other option of being mean and ugly....which is true, but scary
He made a good point in saying that without friendship, no relationship will ever be saved. That has to be a fundamental part of it before any reconciling could take place. he suggested that I simply treat her like I would a sister or a friend. The part I struggle with is, I don't see her wanting to rebuild a marriage with her sister, if you know what I mean. Chuck feels that it is a good approach however. He also reaffirmed what everyone has been saying in regards to, DON'T PURSUE her, DON'T THREATEN her, DON'T MAKE HER PUT UP A DEFENSE. He said if I chase her, she will run. He also that I shouldn't necissarily remain dark or detached, because that is really not how friends or family would be. He said it would be okay to call her from time to time, offers of doing things, that sort of thing, just in a "friendly" non-threatening manner.
Hopefully I can do this, and hopefully I can turn my marriage around....but I'll be honest. My hope is dwindling fast
