Sandi2, yes I see the message here. The first change I'm going to make it not let myself be a doormat any longer. I would let her dictate things, and she would ask how I felt or wanted only after things were done. I'm not saying be a d**k or anything, but if I disagree then I'm going to voice it. I am going to just go back to doing what I was doing before I was asked to leave. I'm going to start caring for the house (cleaning), and also take an active part in our finances. This has to happen because I will be giving her a check 2xs a month, but I'm still going to take an active part. What are some suggestions you see for me? We used to have separate accounts when we got married but she felt like i wasn't committed to our relationship. So I agreed to get a joint account. My W works in finance and always took care of that.
I also appreciate your straight forward response. This is what I'm looking for.
