I never contacted him or texted him once. He had to wonder why. Practicing LRT. Today..he called me no less then five times n texted me. I didnt respond. Is it possible it is working?
Drop your expectations, it's way too soon to expect it to be working. Just remember you're not looking for short term movement, you're looking for changes over months, not days or hours. Also LRT isn't about never responding at all, especially if the texts are regarding the kids.
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Help...as it stands today..H being nice n cordial. Still wont touch me or do anything w me. Will that ever change? Am i being unrealistic to think things will change?
Yes things can change, but it takes a long time. The situation didn't happen overnight even though it may have seemed that way to you, and it won't unwind overnight either.
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We live together but he has told me several times he has no interest in working things out. So why doesnt he go? I knoe he not working but it doesnt seem like he ever plans on going.
Probably because he's not 100% confident that leaving would be the right thing to do. Typically the WAS is confused and in turmoil even though they may seem cool and collected on the outside.
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What should I do?
Stick with the DB'ing. Detach. GAL. Quit micro-analyzing everything he does. Focus on you and the kids.
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well...I can only go so long before my anger gets the best of me. H had interview yest at 3...by 11pm after being home n no contact from him and being home after a full day of work w screaming arguing kids i lost it. i started texting him n got in huge fight thru text n he didnt come home again.
This is a big setback. This will never bring him back. You've got to show him a positive, happy, confident you at all times. And you've got to show him that for months before there's a chance he'll start believing it.
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Im just so tired..tired of him treating me as if Im the one that did something to him...tired of dealing w him leaving all the time w no explanation n tired of having to pick up the mess left behind w our kids. why wont he see what he is doing?? Why does he make it seem like I am the problem??
Because to him you ARE the problem. That's why you have to take him seriously, because that is truly what he believes. If you want him back then you have to change his perception. How do you do that? By changing YOU. By doing 180's on every complaint he has about you. Are you blaming him for all of this? It sounds like you are, and that will create anger and resentment which will destroy whatever chance may be left of holding the M together. You've got to change the dynamic. Stop "more of the same" behavior. Start DB'ing. Good luck!
