Think back to when the two of you were first dating. What type of things did you compliment him on? Don't go overboard just a nice thing here and there. For example "I like that shirt you have on" or "I was thinking of hiring a handyman (for something) I'm not sure though. You did a great job doing it I'd hate to have it not be the same". Or whatever. - I do do those type of things somewhat. Tell him his shirt looks nice on him, I ask for his advice on things. I think I can do better tho.
Then do something like maybe cook something and ask him to join you or cook something new and ask him "hey I'm trying a new recipe, and I need a second opinion." - I bought a new rib sauce recipe, ribs are his favourite. Could I ask him to help me make them? I just know he is coming around 6pm tonight, should I email him and ask him if he would like to have supper?
But they were important to him. - yes I know and that is why I supported him. But spending time with HIM was important to me and those things always interfered.
Why? It's just a thank you. Two simple words. If you can't show him simple gratitude for that, then it's no wonder why he didn't feel valued. - I always have thanked him for everything. Its just now I'm confused about responding to emails. I will send him a thank you note this morning.
No. Get him to see the fun you are having. You can ask him if he would like to join you but don't do anything physical or push him into joining you. - ok, I understand this. If D and I are playing a game, I always ask if he wants to play too, I don't "push" him.
You don't have to give him anything. Don't run away from it. Stay in the room if you want to. - I try to just go about mine and D's daily routine. But I worry about looking like a "gatekeeper" or that I'm interfereing with his parenting time. Its his choice to come here to see D and not take her anywhere but I still do not want to interfere.
