I have found in the process of letting go that it takes time to actually get 'there'. My experience is that even when I feel like I have taken a step backwards ( especially in my mindset) once I pull my socks up again, I am ready to take three steps forward... So it's always moving forward... Sometimes we just need to make sure we are on stable ground before continuing to proceed ahead.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home