Brightfuture, I really enjoy reading your posts as I feel we have so much that is similar, and a lot that is different. I too am trying to do more things on my own. At the moment I don't look forward to them as much as I would if they were with H but I suspect I may enjoy them more. When I look back to 23 years ago I was so independent and so uninterested in any sort of relationship..perhaps that is what appealed then compared to the needy individual that I have become. This loss of confidence in our relationship is completely new for me, I have only ever felt completely confident before, and has just made me more needy over the last 6 months. I think that is why it is important to feel very very positive about your relationship (even if all the evidence points otherwise) then you can stop worrying about that and get on with working on you. I think you are doing really well and I can sense your inner strength....I believe you can do this.
Me 49y H 52y T23 y M17 y ??EA June 2012 with younger co-worker children 8-12
