Thanks for posting on my thread. I just caught up on your sitch & am just wanting to pass on great advice I've received... One is that this journey is a marathon...you seem very anxious to see positive, forward movement now--it could take months.
The fact that your W texts/emails you with random things about D or favors is something--she is still contacting you. I rarely get any contact from H except occasional kid stuff.
Also, it is good that she is open to spending time as a family. COming over to watch a movie together? At least it gives you time to demonstrate your 180s...but don't try, just DO.
Sorry to hear your D is having a difficult time. My S9 is having similar mood swings, which is very unusual for him. Just continue to reassure her that you both love her. Also, positive interactions (friendly) between you will be the best for her regardless of where your M ends up.
Finally, remember DBing is NOT ultimately about saving your M...it is about saving YOU. YOU become a better person for YOU & for all the R's you have. Maybe in time your W will see these changes and become curious and gradually make her way back toward you, but it is possible that she may not. So, that's why we make changes NOT for S, but for ourselves.
Let us know what Chuck has to say! I'll be interested too!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
