At the end of the day, we are responsible for our own actions.
CV, if you are reacting to your H's actions or non-actions, then you give your H more power over you than he truly has.
Be done and move on (or settle) or not. I understand you may really be trying to figure out how to make things better. But when every conclusion comes back to him doing or not doing something or another that upsets you, you hand "control" over to him.
How ever that looks, take back your power and be responsible (own) that which is yours. Your actions or non-actions.
