SS, I might just try the CPAP. I look at it and think I would love the air movement it creates. I'm not sure how I would like the mask though, but I understand there are a number of options.
I understand that H may find the CPAP uncomfortable. And I find his snoring uncomfortable. Either he's waking up from his CPAP, or I'm waking up from his snoring. He has tried a few other alternatives, like the breathe-rights strips, but he didn't like them either. Oh, and earplugs give me a headache from the pressure in my ears and I feel insecure not being able to hear other sounds. Personally, I need a good night's sleep more than I need to sleep in the same bed as my H. So what's the solution? (FloydMan, you could jump in here if you have a suggestion.)
Regarding his kids, I understand everything you're saying. All of that is true for HIM. But it doesn't change the fact that his children are not my children and he can't expect me to act like they are. I might accommodate S22's schedule in a similar snafu, but I wouldn't impose my choice on anyone else.
Step-parenting is very hard. Given the choice, I would not do it again.
FloydMan, from what I've read, conflict-avoidance is never a good thing. It's not a matter of whether I want him to agree or not agree, but his non-committal response doesn't tell me one way or the other. If H says he would like to have sex tonight, and I say, "I understand," is that an appropriate response? Like his is supposed to be for me? If so, then there's at least one solution I can apply! With that, I've completely avoided any conflict, any further discussion, AND, I don't have to have sex. Of course, there's no way for H to know if we're on or not, so I guess he just has to wait up and find out.
FM, you say I'm not wanting solutions. Pick a problem and give me a solution. Let's use his lying as an example. What is the solution, knowing he's not likely to stop, that I can apply and still call it a healthy M?
