CV, It seems that you don't want the help. I think your H is trying to understand if her figures in your dreams. Yes, normal couples do sleep in the same bedroom. Dysfunctional ones don't. I still can't figure out if you want to save the marriage or not. Seems not and are looking for reasons not or validation. His comment "I understand" you take as avoiding conflict. Well of course, he is avoiding it. Why would he want it? Why are you instigating it? Moving bedrooms is a step back and to you is a step forward. As the LBS's we are counselled in therapy and DB to simply agree with the WAS feelings and actions yet you are not satisfied with his response. Do you want him to agree or not agree? Honestly I see his frustration as that is what I live with. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. He feels controlled. You feel control when he shuts down. Again, I know that world as it is my W that is the shut down one so I know that frustration. As a side note, there are many solutions for snoring. Look for solutions, not points of conflict.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
