Initially, he didn't say anything that I recall. Perhaps just "I understand." That's his usual response to anything he doesn't want to discuss, his "closing statement." He's that conflict avoidant, he won't even address his own issues in a healthy way. Later in an argument, he said he doesn't like it, that he feels incomplete, that normal couples sleep in the same bed and he just wants to feel normal. But even before then, we weren't even touching, just sleeping as far to the opposite sides of the bed as possible. I don't understand how that feels "normal." It makes more sense now with the last book I read, which explains that men just like to have their women nearby. Not necessarily interacting in any way, just "there." (Unfortunately, that understanding kind of makes me feel like a dog, but that's another topic.)
Okay, so I'll write if off as H and I don't have the same understanding of basic common courtesy. Now how to factor that into creating a healthy M....?
My dreams for the future are as I laid them out before: small dwelling, simple life, new job with travel, regular planned activities....that sort of thing. Were you looking for something more specific? I don't know that I have anything deeper. It's a ways off yet.
