" I remember that intimacy was a big problem with you in the past so he's probably afraid to open up to you, thinking that things will go right back to the way they were. If he does open up again, are you committed to having the intimacy issue change for good?
Yes I am 100% committed. I know the reason why intimacy left the marriage.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
" Have you done anything to "spark" his interest?
No I haven't. I really wouldn't know where to start. As mentioned he wants nothing to do with me in an intimate way and i feel that anything i do looks dsperate which will push him away more.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
" The thing I would suggest is to go up to him and tell him "I just wanted you to know that I understand what you're going through and if you need to talk to someone I'm there for you." Then just give him a hug and walk away.
Ok
I can't believe how stressful and the mind games this whole situation is. H keeps telling me how he wants this work but shows me little on how it will work. For example he has been out the last 2 night at work late then out having drinks and also plans on going out tomorrow again. How are we suppose to get anywhere when we never spend time together? This was one if the major contributors to our fights in the past and now he's repeating it again. The fact that he works so much, then goes out for drinks and spends little time with me hurts a lot. This behaviour of his started when he moved back here. While he was living out he never went out.
H:37 W:37 M:10 years D:7&5 Bomb:9/7/12. H moves out H moved back 12/23/12-not going well Retrouvaille 1/18 H moving out again 3/14
