What I want you guys opinion on: [/b] Me not helping out with stuff like this was one of her complaints during our R. But now we are not in a R anymore, and I won't accept a dynamic were it is NC unless she needs something from me. (Not saying this was the sole case here). I'm not her handyman or janitor.
I expected her to get mad or upset, but she didn't. Her tone changed a bit, but she stayed polite.
I didn't deny b/c I am resentful, but rather to avoid the resentfulness it would bring. I feel I need to work on not being the mr.nice guy.
Opinions?
Perfect. UF. Part of her deciding that you are no longer important in her life is her actually dealing with the world without you there to help her.
She fired you as her MR.UF so she needs to step up and assume these responsibilities of the tasks you once did. It is called life. You should write this down in your journal and how she reacted and how she tried to manipulate you. Then you can track it to see if there are any patterns so you can then deliver your boundary on being used and what the consequences are if that boundary is broken.
As this ties into your 180 on learning how to say no.
Good work my friend.
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