I'm glad I read here how wacky some of our Hs / Ws can be - it did prepare me a little! I'm astonished at some of the self destructive things I see my H do. Today he went back to smoking cigs after 6 months of quitting. I felt bad about it, but tried not to show any reaction. I only said something like "wow you were getting into such great shape" to which he replied "everything else in my life is screwed up" or something like that.
He said he started smoking again after our last fight a few days ago ( I left for a few hours to hang out with some girlfriends after we got into it that day )....
Then about an hour ago we were sitting together in the living room (otherwise known as his new bedroom) and I heard something falling out onto the table - one of his friends had given him their ADD medication, and the pill bottle had opened and were spilling out of the bottle onto the table. He was putting them back into the bottle and I asked him why he has them - he said it's a prescription. I said it's not your prescription though....he said he only takes it when he's tired. Is that all!
We went out to run an errand and he was telling me about a guy who works with that confided in him a bunch of stuff about his wife and him not having sex in over a year due to a new baby....I was thinking, does he not see the parallels here, or am I his new BFF he just tells things to with no thought for how funny it is to hear, given our sitch? We don't even hold hands anymore, forget the sex!
On the other hand, sometimes I feel amused by the whole thing. The absurdity is just out of hand. And much of the time he pretends like this is completely normal. Pass the salt please.
