UF, In response to the post on the 1/8/13... don't put the cart before the horse. IF these things happen... deal with it then. Thinking about it now is moot.
DBing is about you changing the dynamic of your relationship. It doesn't mean taking the 1st step or the first ten steps. 25 always told me that it would mean that I would take the first 100.
You are still relatively new to the process and if you w has a complaint that you didn't help her - at this stage of the DBing - it doesn't matter if it's true...
it only matter that is what she believes about YOU NOW..
... and only YOU can work on it.
Yes there will come a time that you can set boundaries.. but not yet.
For now - you will just have to keep doing the work.
I mean do you think it's absolutely absurd that your wife feels the way she does?
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
