I've been doing good on not initiating. It's been a week with NC, except short txt about S.
Today she called me. She hates talking on the phone, and usually avoids it. But we had a quick chat about arrangements with S, and she went on for 25minutes about other stuff in life.
Shortly after BD, I bought her an used electrical appliance(heavy,2 people lift) as I owed her one. I got a guarantee on it. Drove it to her house and helped her put it in place. At the end of todays convo she said it was not working right. I said no problem you have a guarantee, just call the guy and he'll sort you out. She asked "you want -me- to call? I feel you should do it. You said you'd set me up." I said after installing it previously that from now on it was her responsibility.
I told her "no, just call him and he will sort you out" She hinted a bit about me helping her move it and some other stuff as well. I politely said for her to hug S goodnight for me and have a nice night.
Maybe that was the whole reason for calling, who knows.
What I want you guys opinion on: Me not helping out with stuff like this was one of her complaints during our R. But now we are not in a R anymore, and I won't accept a dynamic were it is NC unless she needs something from me. (Not saying this was the sole case here). I'm not her handyman or janitor.
I expected her to get mad or upset, but she didn't. Her tone changed a bit, but she stayed polite.
I didn't deny b/c I am resentful, but rather to avoid the resentfulness it would bring. I feel I need to work on not being the mr.nice guy.
Opinions?
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.