Mutual friend told me that Monday night talked with ex-gf and ex-gf said she was hurt that she thought I was already ready to date after giving her the ring and begging her to stay.
Snooping on XGF using mutual friend = not detaching
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After awhile she texts and asks if I can talk. I call and she just wants...
Responding right away to calls and texts = not detaching
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We get into it a bit about the groceries and laundry and all sorts of back and forth about when we were together and not.
Arguing = not detaching
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She heads upstairs to get clothes. I go up and ask if she thinks I don't still want to be with her.
Following her around the house = not detaching
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I just tell her that she's the one always talking about how she wants somebody who wants her no matter what. That we both hurt each other but I still want her.
Pursuing and trying to make up = not detaching
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Then I'm texting with mutual friend about what happened when she was at the house.
Analyzing every little thing XGF does = not detaching
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I send ex-gf a long text basically saying that I still WANT to be with her but I don't NEED to be with her and that if she wants to move on fine.
Pandering = not detaching
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Two seconds after sending the text her reply is "Stop texting me"
Of course she did, she's sick and tired of you smothering her. You have yet to even begin to detach. You have yet to begin to give her time and space, so she's going to take it anyway.
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I figure at this point I just need to take care of myself, get my finances in order, detach, and be at peace with her leaving.
This is where we told you to be months ago. At that point it may have brought her back. Now I'm doubtful it will, but you still need to do it for yourself.
