Thanks, CV, I appreciate the support. I am very lucky with my family and friends. But sometimes the grief is so much that you become so focused on what you don't have that what you do have doesn't seem to help. I don't know. Feeling very sorry for myself.
The bitter exW... so cliche. She left and she's bitter. That's sort of funny. I don't get people sometimes. So, they encourage the lying and break the bond between H and W. That's the issue? It's not so much about his decisions about how to parent them but more about the fact that he consistently makes choices concerning them that belittles your place in his life?
Well, I understand that his version of compromise is not the "classic" definition and certainly not yours. But by burying his head in the sand, refusing to argue about it and try to change his mind, he's compromising in his own way. That seems to alienate you. You have decided to not participate if you don't agree which you said is quite often so that alienates him. I'm not criticizing you for checking out because I understand (all too well) what you are saying that you felt like you were always the one who would cave. But that's not the dynamic anymore, is it? You say he has the option of meeting you where you are at, he's refused to. You could meet him where he's at (albeit not a very compromising position), but you are holding the line. It's sort of like a standoff right now. And I'm trying real hard to not be judgmental and understanding, but the therapist suggesting he has a 15 minute time limit on talks isn't helping much.
