trying to save my marriage Phase 2

[notsurewhat2do]

I hope someone with more "experience/knowledge" can give you some good advice. I just don't have any. I say you don't have to agree with 7 on/7 off, that's not normal. And since you didn't agree with it in writing, you can change your mind? Right?

I understand giving up on him. I think about it also. I'm just not there yet. But I can move on and still have hope. I think I can hold on to hope for a long time. I've held on to hope that things would change for us for the past 3 years (his work situation).

Maybe your H is still in affair "fog", dating fun, he has NO responsbilities that he feels. I happen to think he is in major MLC, but problems that you have had in the past could be contributing factor also. It's hard to tell and you'll probably never know.