re: his kids, it doesn't matter if I would like a better R with them, their mother would never allow it. I wing it strictly by their design. I don't initiate anything because it would make their mother look bad. The only reason I get by with Christmas eve is that my extended family comes, too. If she felt I was doing it just for the kids, she would interfere somehow.
Driving the car wasn't morally bad. Legally, yes, because she wasn't licensed. The bigger issue I have is that he hid what he did, which means he knows I would have been upset, and conspired with his daughters to hide it from me. He basically "outed" me. He taught his daughters very early on that he would be happy to do something against my wishes on their behalf. And trust me when I say that they learned it well. I only found out about the incident a year and a half later when one of them blabbed it in support of her argument that their father loved them more than me and so I should leave.
Your perspective on the compromise is intriguing. I hope you'll let me dig into that a bit more, because it seems you see it differently than I do and I'd love to understand another perspective. I see us pulling apart because neither of us are willing to compromise. But you said that our compromise has resulted in us cutting each other out. I'm really curious as to how my H has compromised? I've given several examples of issues throughout my posts, but could throw out some more if needed. I've gotten to this point because I've always been the one to give in because H wouldn't compromise. He still has the option of meeting me where I'm at, but he opts not to.
