Honestly, I think all those questions are a little too focused on your W. Yeah, she probably didn't/doesn't know your LL and you're at a point know where even if she did, she's probably not willing to do anything about it.
Originally Posted By: Spartan
I didn't want my kids to have to deal with things I did growing up and I was willing to sacrifice myself for that goal. I think not wanting to lose may be my main driver after my kids not having to live in a broken home. Is that really messed up or has anyone else thought this way?
I gave up on the "not wanting to lose" thing a while back, but the kids are definitely a huge driver for me. I wouldn't stay in it for them alone, but understanding the statistics and how D affects kids (academically, socially, etc) is a big big thing for me.
I think the biggest thing I realized is that M is work. Now that I get that, I don't think it'll be easy with any woman. Sure, it'll start easy, but after the honeymoon phase, it'll take work. And if I'm going to work at it, I'd rather start here given everything at risk, even if I'm the only one working for the moment (my W was the only one working at it at other times, so I think I owe her that much).
