trying to save my marriage Phase 2

[notsurewhat2do]

WOW ... so, so, sorry! Don't stop working though. Any thing can change. Please don't give up on yourself. You've said all along, you will be a catch for someone, keep that attitude, because you are right!

WE CAN NOT CONTROL THEM! I'm slowly figuring this out. And everyday I wake up telling myself I can only control me. I can't control DD, I can't control OW and I can't control H. I can't love H back to me, I can't hate back to me, it's all on him.

Sometimes people have to loose what they have the most to figure it out. My guess is that your H will figure it out. What you do then is only your business. Your divorce is going to take a while. It's not immediate. DO NOT LAY DOWN ON THE VISITION. If you aren't comfortable, please voice it! Tell your lawyer what you want. Let him tell his lawyer what he wants. Maybe you can meet in the middle. AND you could always ASK for your DD not to have overnight visits. You can ask for anything. You are your childs voice. Please voice it. You don't seem to be a mean, vindictive person, so don't start now, but be firm about what you think is best for your child.

THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE. “Remember, Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” ― Stephen King

Keep posting! I promise I'll respond... might not be the best advice or most prophetic advice, but I'm listening .....