Your h's behavior is what we call "cake eating". As long as he's got it good at home and you aren't making waves, he'll continue as he has w/you, i.e., being nice, telling you he misses you, etc. However, if you were to shake things up, you would see a different side of your mlcer.
Your MLCer is very normal for MLC land. Some do exactly what your h is doing and others go completely off the rails at the very beginning. It's time you do some 180's and start making changes for yourself that you will be happy with. It's time to let your man see that you aren't waiting the in the spot he left you, but are going on w/your life doing and experiencing new adventures.
Time to take the rest of the cake and put it in the freezer or garbage. He doesn't need another slice because he's entirely too comfortable w/his present situation and will not change for a very long time. Please do not become a doormat to his promises and crumbs that he is offering up to you. You are far, far better than the ow he is seeing now. You are the prize!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
