Hi ndfarmer. Sorry that you are feeling down. Look up to the post right above yours from August and a lot of your answers are right there.

It is a shame yes. How long do you want to allow that to overtake your thoughts and rob you of happiness that is yours to achieve?

As long as your happiness has to come from someone else, you'll be stuck.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.