I have a couple questions:
1. How much is too much information to our kids? D-24, S-22,S-18 and D-16. I found myself venting my anger and frustrations to the kids when they asked a question. I have since stopped that. I told them I would not lie to them if they ask a question but also would no longer volunteer any information. But how far do Zi go?

2. Found H lost his Job on this particular project last night. He told me he was laid off due to budget restrictions. The OW threatened to expose thier affair, as well as threatening suicide, not considering them broken up when he told me and his mids they were, and am finding myself doubting what is true and what isn't. The time frame fits if what she emailed me but H has always said and to his daughter he isn't leaving. Not sure what to think to be honest. The circumstances compared to previous jobs are way different. Even he commented on this. Thoughts and ideas?

3. The kids have been arguing amongst themselves, my oldest S wanted to contact the OW to give her a piece of his mind. I refused to give him info to contact her as did H. Reason being, thought it would do more damage. It would push them closer together. H said she was no longer an issue to his daughter, yet he has told me she contacted him with a work related question. So, my doubts are high. Told my S he is more then welcome to contact his Dad and ask him anything, but not the OW. Did I do the right thing?

4. I find myself doubting him a lot. Actions do speak louder then words, I know that, wish he would. At what point do I start believing him? He has always said he isn't going to leave me, but the OW emails and her mothers emails have me questioning him. Especially with the new development about his job. I do not know if it is due to budgets, perhaps they thought his work performance suffered, although that case never been the case before, whether the OW did what she threatened, or if she laid a formal comsint. No idea what the stays is until he calls me.

5. What is the difference between divorce busting, and divorce remedy. I have both books now and just started DR.. But I have so many doubts.. Not sure what to think anymore.

6. Why does he think I purposely told the kids about him and the OW on Christmas Eve? He thinks I did it on purpose. I told him his actions forced me too. But am sure he thinks I was vindictive. I realize he is shifting the blame on me.. Also told him if he hadn't started this affair in the first place, we wouldn't be here today. Now not only does he have to deal with me , but his kids, parents, and sister. Do all the cheaters think this way?