AnotherStander, thank you for your detailed comments and advice. It is very helpful to see the prospective of other people who are not emotionally involved in your situation. You might be right when you say that my H would be shocked if he thinks that I actually started dating someone. I was such a dedicated wife... I always got attention from the guys, even when I was with him. But, I always was trying to defuse the situation and affirm my faithfulness to him. It was always the opposite, I would be jealous of him flirting, looking, paying more attention (or so I thought) to other women, even though I was a greater catch according to everyone who knows us. Now I understand how wrong it was. He was so sure that I would not go anywhere, but at the same time I wanted his attention to be directed to me and only me, so I was demanding his attention. Wrong, wrong, wrong… You are also right that I need to force myself to do things without him. I think I was also emotionally dependent on him to some degree, and it became too much for him to handle. I’m not saying that I was completely dependent on him. I’m pretty independent person in general, I travel for work, I negotiate my contracts (I’m a consultant), I manage my travel plans, etc. But, I always wanted to spend all my free time with him. Maybe, because we both travel a lot and don’t see each other too for weeks some times, I guess you can call it long distance relationship to some degree. Anyway, I will be doing some GAL activities more, and I will be trying to detach as much as I can. It is actually getting a little easier .
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
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