Can you get back into your exercise? I hear it's a really good thing for depression. I know it helps me. Of course, it first requires getting out of bed to do the exercise. smile I'm wondering if he was seeing the changes in you, and that's why he came back home, because he was afraid he was going to lose you.

Didn't I read that you had a prior M? I could have picked that up somewhere else. If I'm wrong, just ignore this. But if it's true, what is the difference do you think between the first M ending and your hesitancy to leave this one?

Okay, so your H is not working on improving the M and just providing lip service. Do you know what his motivation is for staying? Could you remove that motivation? The texting is interesting. I guess it's possible that he could be making the decision for you some time in the near future. I mean he was the one that left the first time, right? Are you doing anything to protect yourself if he does? Like watching finances closely? Making sure that he's not already ruining your credit rating? I'm suggesting that just because you're stuck and not able to decide what to do doesn't mean he's having the same struggle.

LOL! Yeah, I'm pretty sure my bending my will to his wouldn't work. Quite humorous to even consider that, knowing myself as I do. Not even sure it would be possible. In regards to his kids, it's a combination. I would do anything for my S12. He's my S. I wouldn't do "anything" for his kids. Heck, I wouldn't do anything for my niece and nephew. Some things, sure, but within limits. I can't be expected to treat someone else's kids like my own, to care for them like my own. Maybe some people can do that, I can't. At the same time, he's willing to put up with their disrespect, but I'm not. I'm not sure if it's driven by his guilt from his D or what, but I'm not there. I thought that a good compromise was he does what he needs to do, and I check out. That's still a problem for him. Oh, and although he expects me to treat them as if they're my children, he does not expect them to treat me as their mother. (He has a bunch of double-standards like this.)

There is definitely an increase in the degree of annoyance of the little things, partly because I've asked him to stop a hundred times, partly because I ask virtually nothing of him anymore but he still can't seem to accommodate even the little things. (To be fair, the eating off my plate thing has been resolved. But it's just sad to me that it was such a monumental task. It's so discouraging to think that's what's necessary to accomplish anything in our R.)

Me:49 WAW H:59
T:19.5 M:19
S:13