Grizz - Just caught up on your sitch and you are doing better then most of us were so early in the game. This DBing is very confusing and can be difficult. Just be patient and try to live in the moment with no expectations for an outcome. Sounds like you already know this but no matter how nice (or mean) your W is acting try to keep your hope level at neutral. AS's comments on distance/ pursuit cycle are exactly what I was thinking while reading your earlier posts so just do your thing and don't get on the roller coaster (trust me it's not a fun ride ).
A couple other things I don't think you mentioned. Along with detaching are you GALing? This is very important for your own sanity and to show W that your life will go on. Also I know your W said her feelings are gone but do you know why? Try to remember things she's said in the past that upset her and do 180's on those.
AS - I never saw that post from peanut on detaching and it really helped me better understand it. As you know I've been struggling with this concept for a while and this outlined it nicely.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
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