I just feel that once he gets the 50% he will be gone and they will be with OW. That's not good for them. That's my gut. It's not that I do not want them with their dad. He's never been around unless he "feels" like being a dad. It's gotten worse over the last two years.
And yes it's best he wants them rather than abandons them. But I don't think it's good for them to be shuffled back and forth.
Just something to say here. I'll be brief.
It isn't AS good for them to shuffle back and forth. Of course not. That's part of the collateral damage. It can be much worse. And nobody wants to be "replaced" by somebody else. I get that too. you will always be their mother. Nobody else ever can be. There will never be anyone else that takes that spot. While it is possible he will try to "dump and run" once OW is in the picture and things settle down. You can deal with that at the time. Really. It'll work out pretty easily because the kids always be paramount in the equation.
Funny how crazy brings out the parenting in your H.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
