I need help really bad and really fast

[asadgirl]

Thanks everyone. I am so excited to read these since I have really needed someone to hear me or understand. After following along with some similar stories on this forum, I decided to detach and do a 180. I am trying to GAL as much as I can but with work and the kids, it is kind of hard at the moment. But what I did do last night was go to my bed early and watch a TV show that I had never watched before. I made sure to laugh a little louder when I did laugh. I also did not answer his texts right away yesterday.
He had texted me asking how I was feeling....I did not respond. He then asked if I needed him to get dinner since my kids were with their dad. I texted back shortly "yes". Next thing I know he is walking into the house and saying we should just go get something together. ???? This is after he told me he doesn't even want to be in the same room with me. He also came over and gave me a hug...the hug I gave in return wasn't enough so he said "A real hug". ??????? I hugged him back and he said "why didn't you text me back? I asked if you were ok." Honestly I did not see the text until later and didn't want to answer it at that point. He then asked if i was ok again...I changed the subject. He asked again...I said "yes". Short. Sweet. Dropped. Moved onto the next thing. So we go to dinner....it was fine. I just answered short and sweet again while he told me about work and blah blah blah....acting as if nothing is wrong. I could tell he felt awkward around me though. He had slept in another bed the other night and then last night climbs into bed. Next to me???? I roll over the other way and he snuggles up???? I wanted to say "WTH???" but i didn't. So today I am still feeling the same way. More in control of myself. Able to not text or feel I need to explain my love for him. I am so glad. But my anxiety still hovers. Sunday night he told me that since I was so upset, he would wait for a month before we discuss my moving out again. Said that he wanted me out on March 1st. So my mind keeps thinking....that is why he is being nicer. Because he sees the light at the end of the tunnel...he thinks that this is great!
He has done this before...."It is over, I don't love you, can't ever look at you again".....but this time he has stuck to his guns and has told me several times......Do not try and change his mind. I have thought about what one of you said in that do I really want to be in a marriage with his children allowed to do what they do? And honestly NO. I also do not want a marriage where he speaks the way to me that he does. So I also have a lot to think about. This is what I want to do and let me know what you think....I am going to "try" and be 180 and GAL. I am also going to move forward with trying to find a place to move into by March 1. If we do decide to work on this, I guess I will deal with this later. But he told me the other night that I have to be out by the 1st of March or he will sell the house and have a sheriff get me out. Nice. But the next night wants to snuggle? Do you see why I suspect some sort of personality disorder?