Sorry about all the game-playing Mark. My advice is the same as Starsky...
Look at your post. The answers are there.
Love, I am afraid, is not enough to build a lasting relationship.
Love + Maturity does.
You cannot build a home out of sand, and that's what it looks like your wife's promises are worth.
Do NOT allow her to screw you over with eye rolling, obfuscation, and excuses.
If marriage IS important to her, she will address your concerns rather than rolling her eyes at you.
From my read of your post she's just using you for money.
I'd get away from her quick until she's been through counselling for a long time and clearly demonstrates she's a changed woman.
A spouse just saying they have changed is NOT enough Mark. They must BE changed. That does not happen overnight. It does not even happen just because you take the money away. It happens to liars and users when they hit rock bottom.
She ain't there yet.
And you don't want to be the shoulders she is standing on to avoid drowning now do you?
My guess is she's also still in contact with the "wise" OM.
