Kiki, I too am sorry for your loss. You're doing a lot of things right and you are still early in the healing.

All I can add is keep doing what works for you. I'm glad you found a support group, they can be so helpful. Do you also see an IC?

It would be wonderful if we could get others to work on "their stuff" but we can't. That's part of detaching and letting go.

I have railed against the unfairness of it but have come to realize that continuing that only kept me stuck. It is what it is, accepting that will help you move forward. It doesn't happen overnight, but with work it does eventually happen.

As chatter says, if your husband decides to change and work with you it will happen in his time, not in yours.

Keep posting here and working to become healed.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss