Thanks RLA, That was a big part of the hurt was coming to terms of what happened. I had to deal with my own guilt, and still do about where we lost each other. I have seen that movie and am now doing this stuff as part of my 180. I don't think they got back together in the end but there was happiness.....Hollywood can make up anything. Easier to write a script than to live it. I must admit when W turned the tables weeks after begging and getting me on board to commit I did do what your H does. I was so angry for putting me through hell then pulling the rug out after I did everything she wanted. Yes, I was very angry for that and not living up to her many promises. Since beginning of Nov I have had more of that attitude you are speaking of...puff out chest, ignoring her. It was hard at first and am uncomfortable ignoring someone (though that is what she does) but we will see how it goes. I can't let her control me the way she does. That is for sure.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
