hi ad, i'm with bug on this, especially, with in-laws. my year-long separation from H showed me how little interaction goes on between me and H's family members if i don't initiate: none.

i can see that there would be a difference if we had children together. i would not want to get in the way of my child's relationship with H's family. however, i would expect H to facilitate my children's contact with them and me with my family.
i would make this clear to H that i can't participate as i used to.

just my opinion.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing