Denver, I agree with everything you said in the other thread. I know its on me to make this decision and also know i'll have to be 100% committed to make this work. There really is no OW, only a couple of dinners and i've already told her I couldnt continue talking to her if we were going to try this.
My question is this...no matter why you have a WAW I know that forgiveness is how you overcome these feelings of resentment. But im struggling right now with the fact that she can completely ignore me for months at a time and then decide that we can work on things. I really appreciate what you said about not having to let her back in all the way right now...I hadn't really considered it that way. Im willing to try this and work hard at it, but probably only as hard as I see her working on it.
Im really struggling with this right now, but I recognize what my fears are and will face them one at a time. My plan for now is just what you said....im going to spend some time with the counselor...that can't hurt anything and then im going to see how she and I interact and continue to monitor this thing as it goes.
