You're not stupid, just ignorant-there's a difference, ignorance you can fix.

As Sandi alluded in her post, the best thing you can do is keep quite, stop trying to get answers that satisfy you. Stop trying to defend yourself, stop trying to get her to see the light.

Let her go.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss